On a Night of Snow

November 14, 2015


Cat, if you go outdoors, you must walk in the snow.
You will come back with little white shoes on your feet,
little white shoes of snow that have heels of sleet.
Stay by the fire, my Cat. Lie still, do not go.
See how the flames are leaping and hissing low,
I will bring you a saucer of milk like a marguerite,
so white and so smooth, so spherical and so sweet –
stay with me, Cat. Outdoors the wild winds blow.

Outdoors the wild winds blow, Mistress, and dark is the night,
strange voices cry in the trees, intoning strange lore,
and more than cats move, lit by our eyes green light,
on silent feet where the meadow grasses hang hoar –
Mistress, there are portents abroad of magic and might,
and things that are yet to be done. Open the door!

Elizabeth Coatsworth

(Elizabeth Jane Coatsworth was best known as the American author of Away Goes Sally, The Cat Who Went to Heaven, which won the 1931 Newbery Medal, and the four Incredible Tales, but from her early thirties onwards she wrote a great deal of adult poetry.)

trying to survive

November 14, 2015


Does anything in nature despair except man? An animal with a foot caught in a trap does not seem to despair. It is too busy trying to survive. It is all closed in, to a kind of still, intense waiting. Is this a key? Keep busy with survival. Imitate the trees. Learn to lose in order to recover, and remember that nothing stays the same for long, not even pain, psychic pain. Sit it out. Let it all pass. Let it go.”

May Sarton
Journal of a Solitude

Orgasm control

November 14, 2015


Orgasm control, also known as “edging”, “peaking”, “surfing”, and by other terms, is a sexual technique which involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period of time without reaching orgasm, although orgasm can be reached eventually. If orgasm is not reached after the extended period of arousal, it is referred to as erotic sexual denial. If the partner whose orgasm is being controlled, sometimes referred to as the submissive partner, is put into physical restraints, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease and if orgasm is denied it is tease and denial). Another possibility is for one partner to help produce multiple orgasms in the other.

Orgasm control can involve either one sex partner being in control of the other partner’s orgasm, or a person delaying their own orgasm during either sexual intercourse or masturbation. To experience orgasm control, any method of sexual stimulation can be used – for example, manual, oral, intercourse, or with sex toys – either alone or by means of one or more active partners. Orgasm control is called “slow masturbation” in Alex Comfort’s The New Joy of Sex(1993) and “extended massive orgasm” in Vera and Steve Bodansky’s 2000 book of the same name, and is similar to the Venus Butterfly technique used in the volume The One Hour Orgasm (1988) by Leah and Bob Schwartz.

In a two-person sexual activity, one partner would stimulate the other, gradually bringing them up to the point high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, and will then reduce the level of stimulation to just below that needed to trigger the orgasm. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practising with the same partner to learn their responses, a person can be held in the highly aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation.

Since orgasm control prolongs the experience of powerful sexual sensations occurring during the final build-up to orgasm, the physical demands of being kept or keeping oneself in this highly excited state for an extended time can induce a pleasurable, almost euphoric state, and at times creates changes within an individual’s perceived consciousness.

Source HERE


Girlfriends of mine have long been envious of my wonderful husband, Ron. Never have they seen such a well-mannered, sensitive and caring man. What they don’t realize is that their own boyfriends or husbands could be turned into the same. I’ve written this primer on male chastity to give all you ladies out there the opportunity to turn your toad into the prince you’ve been dreaming about

Step 1: Purchase

This is often the most difficult step. Your goal is to convince your man to purchase and wear a chastity device. Explain to him that doing so would make your relationship stronger, happier, more fun, and intimate. It’s not that you don’t trust him, but you’d feel very special being the one and only one that has control of his sex. Reassure him that by making you his key holder, he’s taking a step towards long term happiness for you both. The Internet is the best source for chastity devices. Seek one out online and order it together.

Step 2: The Arrival

Ensure the device contains all pieces (refer to accompanying instructions). Practice locking and unlocking the device until you’re comfortable doing so. Have your man affix the chastity device to his genitals in the manner prescribed. If it’s placed on correctly, the device should be comfortable, allow for urination, yet restrict his erections and not allow him any direct contact with his penis.

Step 3: The Locking

Ask that he allow you to lock the chastity device in place. Most devices are locked with a simple padlock. Simply affix it as directed in the instructions and snap it shut.

Congratulations! With the closing of the lock, your relationship has taken a great leap.

Step 4: Changes

Having a chastity device locked around his genitals usually means some simple physical changes for your man. First, he’ll likely have to sit while urinating. Secondly, he’ll have to get used to sleeping on his back or sides as sleeping on his stomach may be uncomfortable. Neither of these are very severe and he should be adapted within days.

Step 5: Accepting Your New Role

By holding the keys to your man’s chastity device, you now have the power to ensure he remains loving, loyal, and respectful to you always.

Women throughout history have long known that most men are driven almost entirely by their penises. Because of this fact, men can be very charming, caring, and considerate to a woman in order to gain her assistance in achieving an orgasm. Once the orgasm has occurred, however, men tend to put those wonderful qualities on the backburner until the urge for sexual relief comes back. What’s more, if you refuse to assist him in achieving that relief, he’ll resort to masturbating and take care of the problem on his own.

Do you see the power of those keys now? As long as you hold them, your man’s days of masturbating are over. Furthermore, you now have the power to limit his orgasms, providing them sparingly, only when he has earned the privilege by pleasing you. You’ve become the sole proprietor of his manhood and, as such, have paved the way to making him the man you’ve always wanted.

When he looks at you now, he not only sees his girlfriend or wife, but also the only person capable of providing him with sexual relief. You, the woman, have complete control of your man’s sex – this is the way it should be. In no time flat, you’ll find him getting very huggy and kissy, buying you gifts, and offering to take you to dinner or give you a long and wonderful massage after a long day at work. Sound nice? It is.

Step 6: Establishing the Rules

The first thing you’ll need to do is decide on a schedule for his relief. For men new to chastity, I recommend you begin with a weekly schedule. This doesn’t mean that once a week, every week, he’ll be let out of the chastity device for some action. It means that if, during that week, he’s made you happy, he’ll be given a release. If not, his wait will be extended for a period that you determine. Very quickly, he’ll learn that if you’re unhappy with him, a lack of sexual release for him will be the consequence. What’s more, as he’s only given the opportunity to have one orgasm per week at best, he’ll appreciate them so much more. Soon he’ll understand the importance of always making you happy and equate your happiness with his own.

Another important rule you’ll want to establish is that he will no longer be allowed to play with himself – at all. You and only you will have the power to fondle, caress, or stroke his manhood. In doing so, you reinforce your autonomy as the sole provider of his sexual pleasure. If he wishes to be let out of the device for any reason, allow it, with the stipulation that his hands be tied behind him with a scarf, rope, or pair of handcuffs.

When the time comes for his release, allow it in a manner you choose. If that means a passionate bout of love making, so be it. If it means you giving him oral sex or a hand job, those work too. Once he’s had his orgasm, place him back in the device immediately.

Step 7: The Chores

Be assertive in having him help with the housework. Very soon it could be you laying on the couch and watching TV while he does the dishes as opposed to the all to common reversal of those activities.

This isn’t a license to abuse your power. By all means, you should also share in those chores. However, you’ll likely find that he’ll be offering, on his own accord, to do just about all of them.

Step 8: Your Sexual Pleasure

Just because he’s prevented from achieving sexual relief doesn’t mean that you are! This it he perfect opportunity for him to perfect his tongue technique. Multiple times daily if you wish it! He’ll be very happy to do so as keeping you happy sexually will not only feel like an accomplishment for him, but also serve to ensure his own sexual relief when the time comes.

Last but not least, have fun with it! Don’t be afraid to put on the goddess routine. Make him ask politely to be allowed to give you oral sex, or a massage, or that foot rub. Tease him. The voracious sexual energy you’ll generate in him by doing so can be channelled into pleasing you. Use your imagination.

Soon, you’ll grow to adore keeping your man in a chastity device and wonder why you didn’t do it right from day one. Your man will grow to adore you like he’s never adored any woman before.

Dr. Tanya Larisse

Source HERE.


1. It depends where you work to know if this is “safe” or not.
2. There is a moral to this tale: be careful what you wish for.

It had been a long, long six months. Often on those arid, milky mornings, when she was in the bathroom or downstairs, he’d clutch at himself, his cock, enclosed in its small chrome cage. It was like a madness that could not be overcome.

Except now, after six months of denial, she’d decided he’d earned his chance to cum. She’d freed his aching cock from its cage. She’d tied him to the bed and suspended her magic wand vibrator on a cord above his rigid sex. She’d set the vibrator on low, a gentle fluttering, but enough over time to make him cum…providing he could get the head of his cock in contact with the vibrator. Providing he could do that much…

She’d blindfolded him. He couldn’t see at all. He kept thrusting with his hips and writhing about. His cock stuck up like an inflamed, fleshy rod. Every now and then it’d come in contact with the vibrator, but his thrusting would cause the wand to swing away on its cord. He was trapped there on the edge of despair, his sexual frustration way beyond the power of mere words to convey. Contact with the vibrator was enough to keep him hard and interested, but not enough to make him cum.

And so this torment went on. For how long he couldn’t say. Although it felt to him like many hours. Grunting, thrusting with his hips. The wide head of the vibrator would glide against his cock then slip away. His attempts to achieve release were increasingly futile. He was beyond desperation, tears of frustration filling his eyes; he was a sweaty, aching mess. And yet still he pumped his hips in the air, his attention entirely focused on his now raw-feeling cock.

His body had become nothing but this aching desire for ejaculation. A parcel of throbbing skin, teeth, bones and muscles. He cursed her out loud and she laughed at him. In fury he screamed her name…

‘Please,’ he begged. ‘Please hold that against me. It’s driving me mad…’

‘Where there’s a will, there’s a way,’ she said, and quietly left the room again.

Strangely, his thoughts turned to the tale of Rumpelstiltskin. He saw himself like that poor boastful miller’s daughter, shut away and called on to do the impossible. To produce not gold from straw on this occasion, but ejaculation from fresh air…

God, he’d even welcome that imp-like creature, if it’d only take him in hand. For a few seconds. That’s all it’d take. He would give anything just now to obtain release…

She returned. ‘Still not there?’ He could hear the amusement in her voice. ‘Well, you obviously don’t want to cum, do you? So back it goes in its little cage for the rest of the year…’

‘God, no, please,’ he said, his voice breaking with emotion, his desperation palpable.

And perhaps, then, she took pity on him? Or perhaps his ordeal had made his cock supersensitive? Either way as her warm fingers caressed and enclosed him, his back arced and he shot a curving load of creamy cum in the air.

And his head was suddenly in the starry sky. He could hear her voice so faint but far below. And his cock like a blast furnace spurting flaming steel. The feather-gentle touch of her fingers, the stroke of an angel’s wing. A broken angel. Spirits in the air about him now, electric-blue, as he began to slowly descend, her name catching in his throat.

‘There,’ she said. ‘That’s your treat for now. Have another at Christmas, if you’re lucky…and if you keep me happy, of course. And you know how you keep me happy, don’t you?’

And without another word she reaffixed the chrome cage to his already limp dick.