kiss1

When you are secure in yourself, know what turns you on, and enjoy watching your partner watch you experience sexual pleasure, you have a highly novel relationship grounded in love. The experience of seeing and being seen fuels lust and desire. This is exactly the way you integrate healthy lust and love into your sex life. It’s relational sex, not the old pornographic sex of past addictions.

Alexandra Katehakis
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction

towards orgasm

December 11, 2015

quicky

Many lovers are ‘off to the races:’ Hurtling towards orgasm, they miss the excitement of sensual meanderings along the way.

Alexandra Katehakis
Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence

thighhigh

When you are secure in yourself, know what turns you on, and enjoy watching your partner watch you experience sexual pleasure, you have a highly novel relationship grounded in love. The experience of seeing and being seen fuels lust and desire. This is exactly the way you integrate healthy lust and love into your sex life. It’s relational sex, not the old pornographic sex of past addictions.”

Alexandra Katehakis
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction

Grounded in love…

August 10, 2015

boysandgirlsatplay

“When you are secure in yourself, know what turns you on, and enjoy watching your partner watch you experience sexual pleasure, you have a highly novel relationship grounded in love. The experience of seeing and being seen fuels lust and desire. This is exactly the way you integrate healthy lust and love into your sex life. It’s relational sex, not the old pornographic sex of past addictions.”

Alexandra Katehakis
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction

thrust

“Great spiritual teachers throughout the ages have stated that orgasm is the closest some people come to a spiritual experience because of the momentary loss of self. Why is this true? Because with spiritual sex, you move beyond orgasm into a connection with yourself, your partner, and the divine — recognizing them all as one.”

Alexandra Katehakis
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction