The erotic has often been misnamed by men and used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plasticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consideration of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling. The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire.

Audre Lorde
Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power

The shoulders of Elsa began to shake, and her head bent lower and lower. Julius had to cover his mouth with his hand to prevent himself from laughing. He had discovered a new thing, of hurting the people he liked. It gave him an extraordinary sensation to see Elsa cry after she had been smiling, and to know that he had caused her tears. He was aware of power, strange and exciting.

Daphne du Maurier
The Progress of Julius

mystical ecstasy and death

December 7, 2018

From pure sensation to the intuition of beauty, from pleasure and pain to love and the mystical ecstasy and death — all the things that are fundamental, all the things that, to the human spirit, are most profoundly significant, can only be experienced, not expressed. The rest is always and everywhere silence.

After silence that which comes nearest to expressing the inexpressible is music.

Aldous Huxley
The Rest Is Silence


November 23, 2015


Pain, either physical or emotional pain, it would be thought is something to avoid. After all isn’t this the purpose of pain? Seeking pain intentionally would seem to be abnormal. It isn’t. We all do it. Why? Because sensation is what it means to be alive. We watch frightening movies, eat hot sauce. touch the sore spots where we have been injured, ride roller coasters and bungee jump for all the same reasons: we like the pain because it makes us feel alive.

The same is true of emotional pain. We relive old embarrassments, old heartbreaks even though the feelings are unpleasant and painful. This is, oddly, normal behavior for human beings. This only becomes a problem when we over do it. If you are cutting yourself to feel the pain then this is a problem. If you dwell on old sorrows or hold on to old resentments or grudges to the point of depression, anxiety or lasting anger or hatred then ; this too is a problem. If you find yourself in so much pain that you must dull it with alcohol or drugs which are harmful to the temple of your body ; this too is a problem.

What to do? First, recognize just what you are doing. Recognize that it is something everyone does. When these kinds thoughts arise gently, patiently, identify them, note their effect, and move the mind back to other concerns. I can hear the comments already. ”But Sam this is easier said than done”. True. But it can be done. Patience and persistence is the key. YOU control your thoughts and these thoughts create your pain and so can eliminate pain. It works both ways.

Use the technique of one pointed concentration . Learning the technique of focus and mindfulness. You do not have to be a Bodhisattva, a master or have studied yoga for years to do this. Anyone can do it and millions have. You can do it too.

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