I might put a pretty dress on a guy along with panties and a pair of breast-forms…

A lot of people get hung up on the “forced” part.  Either they object to eroticizing a fantasy that involves non-consent, or they don’t understand how it can possibly be “forced” if the guy being feminized is getting off on it.  These people must realize that words themselves can function as sex toys. We call it “forced” simply because it turns us on to do so. 

With forced fem part of the fun lies in creating the feeling that it is forced.  There’s an art to doing only those things which a submissive has clear-headedly agreed to, and still making him feel like he’s out of control, swept away by the irresistible force of his Mistress’s will and desire.  The materials with which we erotic artists create such experiences are our words, along with props like costumes and BDSM gear.  For a forced fem scene a I might put a pretty dress on a guy along with panties and a pair of breast-forms… bind his hands behind his back… make him kneel in front of me, hold a dildo up to his face and order him to suck.  For the boy whose mind is kinked just right these actions alone are powerfully arousing.  Add my detailed instructions on how to suck a real cock and descriptions of what his life is going to be like from now on as one of my sissy sluts and I’ll have him turned into a puddle of subby goo.  He’ll be convinced on the visceral level of his throbbing erection that he’s been sold into slavery and is about to be turned into a mindless bimbo fuck-toy. 

Why a guy would want to be transformed into a girl is another question.  Femininity in our culture represents many things to many people: being clean, polite and pretty instead of dirty and rude, being free to have feelings, being allowed to enjoy sensual pleasures like silky lingerie and fragrant bubble baths.  But perhaps the strongest and most common urge expressed by a feminization fetish is a longing to be desired.  The feminine is the pursued, the sought-after, the lusted-for, the wanted.  And lots of subguys, even those who aren’t into forced femme, share this desire to be the one who is chased. 

A feminization fetish also very frequently goes hand in hand with male chastity and cuckolding, and is usually served with a heaping side order of erotic embarrassment.  But I’ll save discussing those fetishes for another day. 

Mistress Erisiana Cherie – Bringing out his inner slut with forced feminization 

“Forced” Feminization: Is It Really Forced?

Forced Feminization is a part of bondage, dominance, and submissive culture.  Despite the word ‘forced’ this practice is not meant to be coerced, compelled, or involuntary in any way.  It’s always important to keep in mind that while living out this fantasy, it is just a fantasy.  Participation should always be voluntary, and boundaries established before the outset of play.  This is why it’s imperative to have an understanding partner that you trust to respect those boundaries. This kink will often involve some aspect of submission and gender role reversal.  The male participant, likely you, assumes a more submissive role, possibly to the point of relinquishing all control over the situation.  When role playing, the submissive could be told, or “forced”, to undertake tasks typically seen as feminine, or be dressed in feminine clothing.  The style of clothing or make up could be seen as hyper feminine; tasks could be perceived as emasculating.  For example, being asked to clean in a maid’s uniform with a frilly petticoat and high heels. There are a lot of theories about why you might be interested in sissification or being forced femme.  I think a lot of the reason for enjoying this fantasy is the pressure society puts on men to take control, be in charge, and to be dominant.  Not wanting to conform to these expectations or finding the pressure of taking them on to be too stressful can lead to being aroused by throwing them to the wind.  Being able to relieve ourselves of these responsibilities in the bedroom can be enticing and enthralling.  Having a partner with whom we feel comfortable enough to reveal our vulnerabilities and expose them nakedly is part of the turn on.  The forced part of this fantasy alleviates any feelings of guilt from being turned on by taking on a feminine role – Dr. Zweizung   

craving chastisement

Many of the men who come to me crave chastisement. I supply it for a price. Inevitably I see them cry before the end of the session.

Madam X, Dominatrix

Flagellation Friday

I found her address in the latest edition of Radiators & Handcuffs – the delectable, very strict Mistress Sinn…

In olden days II

The Roaring ’20s was a strange and glorious time. World War I was over! Girls were finally allowed to show their knees in public, and could even do so while voting. Television was invented in a primitive form, and the arts and music scenes flourished. Then again, this was an era in which smoking while pregnant was thought to be a good idea, a product was invented to make women’s vags smell like Febreeze, and knowing the names of one’s private parts before marriage might lead one to suicide.

Anna Pulley – Roaring Twenties

In the 1920s and 1930s sexual deviants could slip and clank into lingerie and bondage gear from Yva Richard, founded by husband-and-wife team L. Richard and Nativa Richard, and Leon Vidal’s Diana Slip, part of his Les Editions Gauloise (later, Les Libraires Nouvelles) fashion network. House of Slip commissioned such esteemed photographers as Roger Schall and Brassaï to flog (pun intended) “très suggestifs” for “toutes les commandes particulières”.

Diana Slip’s main branch was at 9 Rue Richepanse in the 8ème, Paris, in which the discerning client could buy aphrodisiacs, dirty photos and mucky books. “Would you like to read something really daring?” asks one advertisement. “My collection contains the most audacious, the most licentious books published in English. (Illustrated).”

Yva Richard’s brochure, La Lingerie Moderne, offered masks and iron restraints.

Karen Strike – Vintage Bondage and Fetish Gear By Yva Richard and Diana Slip

While the dominatrix has existed since ancient times, the leather and latex-clad image that comes to mind today didn’t develop until the late 19^th / early 20^th century. The fashion staples of these dominant women were established in the early 1900s as pin-up photography and erotic illustrations began to circulate. From cat suits to kinky boots, the dominatrix became a sexually liberated figure supported by an erotic wardrobe consisting of bustiers, fishnets, and other traditional lingerie pieces.

You can call this sex excitement if you like, but it is sex-excitement of a secretive, furtive sort, quite special.

D.H. Lawrence, Pornography and Obscenity (1929)

 “Exquisite caresses are the strongest of love awakeners. The touch of a hand in passing is enough to make a delicious thrill! It starts the working of the magnet, and that is why continuous flirtations are so stupid,”

Elinor Glyn – The Philosophy of Love (1923)

After the First World War, new forms of entertainment and communication begin revolving around sexuality. It became clear: people were interested in seeing sexual behavior.

Women no longer wanted to be constrained by men, and men no longer wanted to be constrained by society. But the only way for them to achieve that goal was by letting go of their previous social norms…

I need a-plenty grease in my fryin' pan,
'Cause I don't want my meat to burn!
You know I asked you but to give me some lard,
But it seems that you cannot learn!

You know I use plenty grease every day,
But I ain't did no fryin' while you was away!
I need a-plenty grease in my fryin' pan,
'Cause I don't want my meat to burn!

I need a-plenty grease in my fryin' pan,
'Cause I don't want my meat to burn!
You know I asked you but to give me some lard,
But it seems that you cannot learn!

My fryin' pan is on the stove, gettin' hot,
I said, "sweet papa, put some grease in my pot!".
I need a-plenty grease in my fryin' pan,
'Cause I don't want my meat to burn!

Margaret Carter with Buddy Christian (1926)

Being in Control

And here I am. A woman who likes to wear high heels and dresses. Whose nails are done – most of the time. A woman who likes to feel safe around a man. A woman who deeply cares for those around her. But who is also dominant and wants/needs to be in control. A woman who loves to tie someone up and tease them, peg them, slap them and sometimes even hurt them. – Miss Bo

desire, power, and dominance

I grew up in a female-dominated household, and it influenced my perspective on the world, and how I navigated relationships. I wasn’t necessarily that into BDSM sex before I became a dominatrix, but I was definitely interested in the idea of female dominance. Female dominance has always been my natural go-to.

[…]

It’s only in the last three years that I’ve been able to say, “I’m a mistress, and I’m good at what I do.” Before that I was more uncertain. Like any other job, you only really step into it when you let go of the self-doubt and stop being so hard on yourself. Early on, I used to be quite hard on myself to deliver, but now I just try and approach things as authentically as I can.

The main thing I’ve learned from this job is how to frame desire, power, and dominance in a much healthier way. Particularly when you’re female, dominance is not seen as a good thing. But for me, being a mistress has been an incredible channel to experience desire, power, and dominance, in a way that is healthy, and in a way that I can accept within myself, and that others can enjoy.

Mistress Eva – Training My First BDSM Slave Helped Me Embrace My Bossy Side

Pull your pants down – I know you’ve been stealing panties

Then I have a client – well, a lot of clients like this — who likes to wear women’s underwear and garters, thigh-highs and heels. They don’t go full cross-dresser. They just want to be the naughty boy who got caught wearing the panties. So we’ll do scenarios where we’re in the classroom and I’ll be Principal Hawn, and I’ll say, “Pull your pants down. I know you’ve been stealing panties out of the locker room,” and then I’ll spank the guy in the classroom. It’s like going back to a teacher maybe he fantasized about.

Hudsy Hawn
What It’s Really Like to Be a Professional Dominatrix

calls me a dominatrix

I hate being tied up. But I looove tying my boyfriend up. He calls me a dominatrix to tease me. We have a paddle and everything. It’s fun! — Hannah, 26

Holly Riordan
Women Reveal How They Really Feel About Bondage

most base and most pure

She imagined herself both queen and slave, dominatrix and victim. In her imagination she was making love with men of all skin colours – white, black, yellow – with homosexuals and beggars. She was anyone’s, and anyone could do anything to her. She had one, two, three orgasms, one after another. She imagined everything she had never imagined before, and she gave herself to all that was most base and most pure.

Paulo Coelho
Veronika Decides to Die