desire, power, and dominance

I grew up in a female-dominated household, and it influenced my perspective on the world, and how I navigated relationships. I wasn’t necessarily that into BDSM sex before I became a dominatrix, but I was definitely interested in the idea of female dominance. Female dominance has always been my natural go-to.

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It’s only in the last three years that I’ve been able to say, “I’m a mistress, and I’m good at what I do.” Before that I was more uncertain. Like any other job, you only really step into it when you let go of the self-doubt and stop being so hard on yourself. Early on, I used to be quite hard on myself to deliver, but now I just try and approach things as authentically as I can.

The main thing I’ve learned from this job is how to frame desire, power, and dominance in a much healthier way. Particularly when you’re female, dominance is not seen as a good thing. But for me, being a mistress has been an incredible channel to experience desire, power, and dominance, in a way that is healthy, and in a way that I can accept within myself, and that others can enjoy.

Mistress Eva – Training My First BDSM Slave Helped Me Embrace My Bossy Side

Pull your pants down – I know you’ve been stealing panties

Then I have a client – well, a lot of clients like this — who likes to wear women’s underwear and garters, thigh-highs and heels. They don’t go full cross-dresser. They just want to be the naughty boy who got caught wearing the panties. So we’ll do scenarios where we’re in the classroom and I’ll be Principal Hawn, and I’ll say, “Pull your pants down. I know you’ve been stealing panties out of the locker room,” and then I’ll spank the guy in the classroom. It’s like going back to a teacher maybe he fantasized about.

Hudsy Hawn
What It’s Really Like to Be a Professional Dominatrix